“Owning our own story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous and giving up on love and belonging and joy.” ~Brené Brown
A few things come to mind when I read that quote.
• I absolutely LOVE Brene Brown
• Its sooo hard to be vulnerable. At least for this gal.
Being vulnerable means that you have to give up control. You have to let go and expose yourself to rejection. You must be willing to accept that your dreams, desires and love may not be met with the same vision you had for them. Vulnerability is the definition of courage and the ultimate act of love.
Over the years I’ve been hurt. Badly. I’m sure we all have at some point. Difficult memories from when I was a young girl finally caught up with me in my early twenties when the thought of rejection terrified me and sent me running in the opposite direction. I was so afraid of not being liked and of failing that I avoided any situation which exposed me to being vulnerable.
What happened? I lost myself for a bit. I hurt people. I spent years healing myself through group and individual therapy and yet something was still missing. I was unable to be vulnerable and take risks in relationships and my career. I was stuck.
When I learned about the psychology of the chakras I was able to pinpoint exactly where these blocks came from, what memories caused them and why they were replaying themselves in real time. The chakras are centers of energy located in our bodies that become blocked over the years from everyday life stress and painful past experiences. Traumatic memories get stuck in our chakras and replay themselves through our thoughts, actions and injuries.
Have you ever felt choked up and not been able to express yourself? When you travel do you experience digestive issues because you don’t feel at home? And we all remember the feeling of a physically painful heart break. Those symptoms are all caused by a deficiency in your chakras. Power comes from being aware of why you’re behaving a certain way, from understanding you have a choice. You can either take action, or remain the same.
I knew I had a blocked heart chakra. All signs were pointing to yes and that was when I decided to heal my heart. Working with the chakras is simple and powerful. It requires that you dig deep and shine a light on your shadow. Transformation happens the minute you decide to take contrary action and do the exact opposite of what has not been working for you.
It was around this time that I met my husband, a man so open he wears his heart on his sleeve no matter how many times he’s been hurt. The epitome of courage and vulnerability. Nothing will challenge you as much as being in a relationship and this was no different. My heart chakra was being cracked open.
I resisted getting close for fear that I may possibly suffer the loss of love, but he saw right through that and pushed me past those self doubts. The more I opened up, the more I was able to loosen up. I loved the goofy, quirky me. I felt beautiful when I woke in the morning, even without makeup. Baby steps towards self love, but they were massive steps in the journey of my awakening.
My venture with vulnerability has been slow and excruciating at times but I can honestly say from experience that it is the foundation for happiness and real self love. Without being vulnerable I would never have married my best friend or started my business. We are all driven by our capacity to love. Love others, love ourselves, love creating and connecting. Living a magnificent life just takes a little courage and faith, and a lot of vulnerability.
Images courtesy of Caroline White photography and the author.
Dani Havasy is a gifted yoga and pilates teacher and the creator of Core Chakra. Her passion for yoga and pilates is rooted in a fondness for physical exercise and a deep personal attachment to spiritual exploration. Beyond holding certifications in both disciplines (including pre-natal yoga) Dani has completed a variety of fitness certifications and has been featured in many publications.
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